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The BITCH Manifesto
by Joreen Written in the fall
of 1968, this paper was first published in Notes from the Second
Year ed. by Shulamith Firestone and Anne Koedt, 1970. It was
later reprinted as a pamphlet by KNOW, Inc., and reprinted in
several books.
...man is defined as
a human being and woman is defined as a female. Whenever she tries
to behave as a human being she is accused of trying to emulate the
male...
Simone de Beauvoir
BITCH is an organization which
does not yet exist. The name is not an acronym. It stands for
exactly what it sounds like.
BITCH is composed of Bitches. There are many definitions of a
bitch. The most complimentary definition is a female dog. Those
definitions of bitches who are also homo sapiens are rarely as
objective. They vary from person to person and depend strongly on
how much of a bitch the definer considers herself. However,
everyone agrees that a bitch is always a female, dog, or
otherwise.
It is also generally agreed that a Bitch is aggressive, and
therefore unfeminine (ahem). She may be sexy, in which case she
becomes a Bitch Goddess, a special case which will not concern us
here. But she is never a "true woman."
Bitches have some or all of the following characteristics.
1) Personality. Bitches are
aggressive, assertive, domineering, overbearing, strong-minded,
spiteful, hostile, direct, blunt, candid, obnoxious, thick-skinned,
hard-headed, vicious, dogmatic, competent, competitive, pushy,
loud-mouthed, independent, stubborn, demanding, manipulative,
egoistic, driven, achieving, overwhelming, threatening, scary,
ambitious, tough, brassy, masculine, boisterous, and turbulent.
Among other things. A Bitch occupies a lot of psychological space.
You always know she is around. A Bitch takes shit from no one. You
may not like her, but you cannot ignore her.
2) Physical. Bitches are big, tall, strong, large, loud, brash,
harsh, awkward, clumsy, sprawling, strident, ugly. Bitches move
their bodies freely rather than restrain, refine and confine their
motions in the proper feminine manner. They clomp up stairs, stride
when they walk and don't worry about where they put their legs when
they sit. They have loud voices and often use them. Bitches are not
pretty.
3) Orientation. Bitches seek their identity strictly thru
themselves and what they do. They are subjects, not objects. They
may have a relationship with a person or organization, but they
never marry anyone or anything; man, mansion, or movement. Thus
Bitches prefer to plan their own lives rather than live from day to
day, action to action, or person to person. They are independent
cusses and believe they are capable of doing anything they damn
well want to. If something gets in their way; well, that's why they
become Bitches. If they are professionally inclined, they will seek
careers and have no fear of competing with anyone. If not
professionally inclined, they still seek self-expression and
self-actualization. Whatever they do, they want an active role and
are frequently perceived as domineering. Often they do dominate
other people when roles are not available to them which more
creatively sublimate their energies and utilize their capabilities.
More often they are accused of domineering when doing what would be
considered natural by a man.




A true Bitch is self-determined, but the term
"bitch" is usually applied with less discrimination. It is a
popular derogation to put down uppity women that was created by man
and adopted by women. Like the term "nigger," "bitch" serves the
social function of isolating and discrediting a class of people who
do not conform to the socially accepted patterns of behavior.
BITCH does not use this word in the negative sense. A woman should
be proud to declare she is a Bitch, because Bitch is Beautiful. It
should be an act of affirmation by self and not negation by others.
Not everyone can qualify as a Bitch. One does not have to have all
of the above three qualities, but should be well possessed of at
least two of them to be considered a Bitch. If a woman qualifies in
all three, at least partially, she is a Bitch's Bitch. Only
Superbitches qualify totally in all three categories and there are
very few of those. Most don't last long in this society.
The most prominent characteristic of all Bitches is that they
rudely violate conceptions of proper sex role behavior. They
violate them in different ways, but they all violate them. Their
attitudes towards themselves and other people, their goal
orientations, their personal style, their appearance and way of
handling their bodies, all jar people and make them feel uneasy.
Sometimes it's conscious and sometimes it's not, but people
generally feel uncomfortable around Bitches. They consider them
aberrations. They find their style disturbing. So they create a
dumping ground for all who they deplore as bitchy and call them
frustrated women. Frustrated they may be, but the cause is social
not sexual.
What is disturbing about a Bitch is that she is androgynous. She
incorporates within herself qualities traditionally defined as
"masculine" as well as "feminine". A Bitch is blunt, direct,
arrogant, at times egoistic. She has no liking for the indirect,
subtle, mysterious ways of the "eternal feminine." She disdains the
vicarious life deemed natural to women because she wants to live a
life of her own.
Our society has defined humanity as male, and female as something
other than male. In this way, females could be human only by living
vicariously thru a male. To be able to live, a woman has to agree
to serve, honor, and obey a man and what she gets in exchange is at
best a shadow life. Bitches refuse to serve, honor or obey anyone.
They demand to be fully functioning human beings, not just shadows.
They want to be both female and human. This makes them social
contradictions. The mere existence of Bitches negates the idea that
a woman's reality must come thru her relationship to a man and
defies the belief that women are perpetual children who must always
be under the guidance of another.
Therefore, if taken seriously, a Bitch is a threat to the social
structures which enslave women and the social values which justify
keeping them in their place. She is living testimony that woman's
oppression does not have to be, and as such raises doubts about the
validity of the whole social system. Because she is a threat she is
not taken seriously. Instead, she is dismissed as a deviant. Men
create a special category for her in which she is accounted at
least partially human, but not really a woman. To the extent to
which they relate to her a a human being, they refuse to relate to
her as a sexual being. Women are even more threatened because they
cannot forget she is a woman. They are afraid they will identify
with her too closely. She has a freedom and an independence which
they envy and challenges them to forsake the security of their
chains. Neither men nor women can face the reality of a Bitch
because to do so would force them to face the corrupt reality of
themselves. She is dangerous. So they dismiss her as a freak.
is is the root of her own oppression as a woman. Bitches are not
only oppressed as women, they are oppressed for not being like
women. Because she has insisted on being human before being
feminine, on being true to herself before kowtowing to social
pressures, a Bitch grows up an outsider. Even as girls, Bitches
violated the limits of accepted sex role behavior. They did not
identify with other women and few were lucky enough to have an
adult Bitch serve as a role model. They had to make their own way
and the pitfalls this uncharted course posed contributed to both
their uncertainty and their independence.
Bitches are good examples of how women can be strong enough to
survive even the rigid, punitive socialization of our society. As
young girls it never quite penetrated their consciousness that
women were supposed to be inferior to men in any but the
mother/helpmate role. They asserted themselves as children and
never really internalized the slave style of wheedling and cajolery
which is called feminine. Some Bitches were oblivious to the usual
social pressures and some stubbornly resisted them. Some developed
a superficial feminine style and some remained tomboys long past
the time when such behavior is tolerated. All Bitches refused, in
mind and spirit, to conform to the idea that there were limits on
what they could be and do. They placed no bounds on their
aspirations or their conduct.
For this resistance they were roundly condemned. They were put
down, snubbed, sneered at, talked about, laughed at and ostracized.
Our society made women into slaves and then condemned them for
acting like slaves. It was all done very subtly. Few people were so
direct as to say that they did not like Bitches because they did
not play the sex role game.
In fact, few were sure why they did not like Bitches. They did not
realize that their violation of the reality structure endangered
the structure. Somehow, from early childhood on, some girls didn't
fit in and were good objects to make fun of. But few people
consciously recognized the root of their dislike. The issue was
never confronted. If it was talked about at all, it was done with
snide remarks behind the young girl's back. Bitches were made to
feel that there was something wrong with them; something personally
wrong.
Teenage girls are particularly vicious in the scapegoat game. This
is the time of life when women are told they must compete the
hardest for the spoils (i.e. men) which society allows. They must
assert their femininity or see it denied. They are very unsure of
themselves and adopt the rigidity that goes with uncertainty. They
are hard on their competitors and even harder on those who decline
to compete. Those of their peers who do not share their concerns
and practice the arts of charming men are excluded from most social
groupings. If she didn't know it before, a Bitch learns during
these years that she is different.
As she gets older she learns more about why she is different. As
Bitches begin to take jobs, or participate in organizations, they
are rarely content to sit quietly and do what they are told. A
Bitch has a mind of her own and wants to use it. She wants to rise
high, be creative, assume responsibility. She knows she is capable
and wants to use her capabilities. This is not pleasing to the men
she works for, which is not her primary goal.
When she meets the hard brick wall of sex prejudice she is not
compliant. She will knock herself out batting her head against the
wall because she will not accept her defined role as an auxiliary.
Occasionally she crashes her way thru. Or she uses her ingenuity to
find a loophole, or creates one. Or she is ten times better than
anyone else competing with her. She also accepts less than her due.
Like other women her ambitions have often been dulled for she has
not totally escaped the badge of inferiority placed upon the
"weaker sex." She will often espouse contentment with being the
power behind the throne -- provided that she does have real power
-- while rationalizing that she really does not want the
recognition that comes with also having the throne. Because she has
been put down most of her life, both for being a woman and for not
being a true woman, a Bitch will not always recognize that what she
has achieved is not attainable by the typical woman. A highly
competent Bitch often deprecates herself by refusing to recognize
her own superiority. She is wont to say that she is average or less
so; if she can do it, anyone can.
As adults, Bitches may have learned the feminine role, at least the
outward style but they are rarely comfortable in it. This is
particularly true of those women who are physical Bitches. They
want to free their bodies as well as their minds and deplore the
effort they must waste confining their physical motions or dressing
the role in order not to turn people off. Too, because they violate
sex role expectations physically, they are not as free to violate
them psychologically or intellectually. A few deviations from the
norm can be tolerated but too many are too threatening. It's bad
enough not to think like a woman, sound like a woman or do the
kinds of things women are supposed to do. To also not look like a
woman, move like a woman or act like a woman is to go way beyond
the pale. Ours is a rigid society with narrow limits placed on the
extent of human diversity. Women in particular are defined by their
physical characteristics. Bitches who do not violate these limits
are freer to violate others. Bitches who do violate them in style
or size can be somewhat envious of those who do not have to so
severely restrain the expansiveness of their personalities and
behavior. Often these Bitches are tortured more because their
deviancy is always evident. But they do have a compensation in that
large Bitches have a good deal less difficulty being taken
seriously than small women. One of the sources of their suffering
as women is also a source of their strength.
The trial by fire which most Bitches go thru while growing up
either makes them or breaks them. They are strung tautly between
the two poles of being true to their own nature or being accepted
as a social being. This makes them very sensitive people, but it is
a sensitivity the rest of the world is unaware of. For on the
outside they have frequently grown a thick defensive callous which
can make them seem hard and bitter at times. This is particularly
true of those Bitches who have been forced to become isolates in
order to avoid being remade and destroyed by their peers. Those who
are fortunate enough to have grown up with some similar companions,
understanding parents, a good role model or two and a very strong
will, can avoid some of the worse aspects of being a Bitch. Having
endured less psychological punishment for being what they were they
can accept their differentness with the ease that comes from
self-confidence.
Those who had to make their way entirely on their own have an
uncertain path. Some finally realize that their pain comes not just
because they do not conform but because they do not want to
conform. With this comes the recognition that there is nothing
particularly wrong with them they just don't fit into this kind of
society. Many eventually learn to insulate themselves from the
harsh social environment. However, this too has its price. Unless
they are cautious and conscious, the confidence gained in this
painful manner -- with no support from their sisters -- is more
often a kind of arrogance. Bitches can become so hard and calloused
that the last vestiges of humanity become buried deep within and
almost destroyed.
Not all Bitches make it. Instead of callouses, they develop open
sores. Instead of confidence they develop an unhealthy sensitivity
to rejection. Seemingly tough on the outside, on the inside they
are a bloody pulp, raw from the lifelong verbal whipping they have
had to endure. These are Bitches who have gone Bad. They often go
around with a chip on their shoulders and use their strength for
unproductive retaliation when someone accepts their dare to knock
it off . These Bitches can be very obnoxious because they never
really trust people. They have not learned to use their strength
constructively.
Bitches who have been mutilated as human beings often turn their
fury on other people -- particularly other women. This is one
example of how women are trained to keep themselves and other women
in their place. Bitches are no less guilty than non-Bitches of
self-hatred and group-hatred and those who have gone Bad suffer the
worse of both these afflictions. All Bitches are scapegoats and
those who have not survived the psychological gauntlet are the butt
of everyone's disdain. As a group, Bitches are treated by other
women much as women in general are treated by society -- all right
in their place, good to exploit and gossip about, but otherwise to
be ignored or put down. They are threats to the traditional woman's
position and they are also an outgroup to which she can feel
superior. Most women feel both better than and jealous of Bitches.
While comforting themselves that they are not like these
aggressive, masculine freaks, they have a sneaking suspicion that
perhaps men, the most important thing in their lives, do find the
freer, more assertive, independent, Bitch preferable as a
woman.
Bitches, likewise, don't care too much for other women. They grow
up disliking other women. They can't relate to them, they don't
identify with them, they have nothing in common with them. Other
women have been the norm into which they have not fit. They reject
those who have rejected them. This is one of the reasons Bitches
who are successful in hurdling the obstacles society places before
women scorn these women who are not. They tend to feel those who
can take it will make it. Most women have been the direct agents of
much of the shit Bitches have had to endure and few of either group
have had the political consciousness to realize why this is.
Bitches have been oppressed by other women as much if not more than
by men and their hatred for them is usually greater.
Bitches are also uncomfortable around other women because
frequently women are less their psychological peers than are men.
Bitches don't particularly like passive people. They are always
slightly afraid they will crush the fragile things. Women are
trained to be passive and have learned to act that way even when
they are not. A Bitch is not very passive and is not comfortable
acting that role. But she usually does not like to be domineering
either -- whether this is from natural distaste at dominating
others or fear of seeming too masculine. Thus a Bitch can relax and
be her natural non-passive self without worrying about masticating
someone only in the company of those who are as strong as she. This
is more frequently in the company of men than of women but those
Bitches who have not succumbed totally to self-hatred are most
comfortable of all only in the company of fellow Bitches. These are
her true peers and the only ones with whom she does not have to
play some sort of role. Only with other Bitches can a Bitch be
truly free.
These moments come rarely. Most of the time Bitches must remain
psychologically isolated. Women and men are so threatened by them
and react so adversely that Bitches guard their true selves
carefully. They are suspicious of those few whom they think they
might be able to trust because so often it turns out to be a sham.
But in this loneliness there is a strength and from their isolation
and their bitterness come contributions that other women do not
make. Bitches are among the most unsung of the unsung heroes of
this society. They are the pioneers, the vanguard, the spearhead.
Whether they want to be or not this is the role they serve just by
their very being. Many would not choose to be the groundbreakers
for the mass of women for whom they have no sisterly feelings but
they cannot avoid it. Those who violate the limits, extend them; or
cause the system to break.
Bitches were the first women to go to college, the first to break
thru the Invisible Bar of the professions, the first social
revolutionaries, the first labor leaders, the first to organize
other women. Because they were not passive beings and acted on
their resentment at being kept down, they dared to do what other
women would not. They took the flak and the shit that society
dishes out to those who would change it and opened up portions of
the world to women that they would otherwise not have known. They
have lived on the fringes. And alone or with the support of their
sisters they have changed the world we live in.
By definition Bitches are marginal beings in this society. They
have no proper place and wouldn't stay in it if they did. They are
women but not true women. They are human but they are not male.
Some don't even know they are women because they cannot relate to
other women. They may play the feminine game at times, but they
know is is a game they are playing. Their major psychological
oppression is not a belief that they are inferior but a belief that
they are not. Thus, all their lives they have been told they were
freaks. More polite terms were used of course, but the message got
thru. Like most women they were taught to hate themselves as well
as all women. In different ways and for different reasons perhaps,
but the effect was similar. Internalization of a derogatory
self-concept always results in a good deal of bitterness and
resentment. This anger is usually either turned in on the self --
making one an unpleasant person or on other women -- reinforcing
the social cliches about them. Only with political consciousness is
it directed at the source -- the social system.
The bulk of this Manifesto has been about Bitches. The remainder
will be about BITCH. The organization does not yet exist and
perhaps it never can. Bitches are so damned independent and they
have learned so well not to trust other women that it will be
difficult for them to learn to even trust each other. This is what
BITCH must teach them to do. Bitches have to learn to accept
themselves as Bitches and to give their sisters the support they
need to be creative Bitches. Bitches must learn to be proud of
their strength and proud of themselves. They must move away from
the isolation which has been their protection and help their
younger sisters avoid its perils. They must recognize that women
are often less tolerant of other women than are men because they
have been taught to view all women as their enemies. And Bitches
must form together in a movement to deal with their problems in a
political manner. They must organize for their own liberation as
all women must organize for theirs. We must be strong, we must be
militant, we must be dangerous. We must realize that Bitch is
Beautiful and that we have nothing to lose. Nothing
whatsoever.
This manifesto was written and
revised with the help of several of my sisters, to whom it is
dedicated.
(c) Copyright 1969
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